SIGNS OF A CHEATING SPOUSE SPECIAL NOTE: Please handle this information with extreme care. Just for your own information and enlightenment, here is a checklist one might use to determine whether or not there is a matrimonial problem. Do you have a suspicion that there is something wrong or that something strange is going on with your partner? Is there something unsaid between the two of you? Telephone:If you are already somewhat suspicious and you begin to note more wrong numbers or hang-ups when you answer the phone its time to check the phone bill and to use star 69. If there are new long distance calls on the bill or the number of calls and the time spent on the phone has jumped dramatically, file that fact away in your mental notebook and see if the pattern continues. Is the house receiving more phone calls than usual? And does it seem that some of these incoming calls represent the classic case of “If a man answers hang up? Mileage:When the suspicion takes hold, you might as well follow through because you will not be satisfied until you do. When you say where are you going dear? And he says “ I am going to Fridays to watch the game with the boys”, check it out. You know that Fridays is only three miles away so go to the car and get a good look at the odometer before he leaves. When he gets back ask if he had a good time, and since he has been gone for six hours ask if he stopped anywhere else. If he says no, check the mileage. If it is substantially more than six miles, like say 119 or even 39, there may be reason to wonder. Credit cards: As the case begins to build you will want to pay close attention to the most recent charges on your spouses credit card, including the gasoline cards. Note especially where the gas purchases were made. That will indicate major changes in driving patterns. If the other credit card bills start to include items you do not recognize or items that make you wonder, like a $150.00 bill from a lingerie shop or two tickets to a Broadway show you have not seen, then your antennae should be up and working. Are there more charges than usual ? Are new restaurants listed, are there odd charges that you can not account for? When you ask about it does your spouse say I haven’t the slightest idea what you are talking about? New things: If there are new things around, and they just seem to appear from an unknown source, they may be coming from an unknown source. Matchbooks from restaurants where you have never eaten, movie ticket stubs, a piece of new jewelry, a pedicure, an ashtray from the Hot Sheets motel are all indicators that something is happening. Tell Tale Signs: Surprisingly, when people are having affairs, they quite often leave a trail, little tell tale signs that prove nothing, but add to suspicion. Lip stick on the collar, when you spot a smudge on your husbands otherwise impeccable shirt, you can be relatively sure that it is not because his secretary gave him a peck on the check when he gave her a letter to type. Pattern:Do you detect a new pattern of behavior, a new schedule at home or work? Are things not getting done that used to get done, or are they being forgotten when they never were before? Sexual Habits:Have they changed? Has he or she been showing off a new bag of tricks? Is he or she doing things that were absolutely out of the question for the first five years of the marriage. I could continue to give you examples but I think by now you have the point. So let me wrap this up with a little advice. If you decide to conduct all or part of your own matrimonial investigation, remember it is an emotionally draining experience. You will ask yourself why you are doing it. Well, “why” may be the reason. The why of it all is a strong motivator. All of the discoveries you find will add to the emotional impact of what you are doing, please proceed with care. www.PalmBeachPrivateEye.com
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